The “UGLY” word.
Definition (from Google) : Ugly – unpleasant or repulsive, especially in appearance.”she thought she was ugly and fat”.
Have you ever been called ugly before? Have you ever called somebody else ugly?
I am quite positive that most of us have experienced either of these situations at SOME point in our lives, whether it be at school, the work place, or even in our own homes amongst our family and friends.
Perhaps the word does not affect some as much as it does others, but I know from personal experience that calling someone ugly can cause their self esteem to plunge into an unforgiving darkness. No matter where you look, or how much light you try to shine, it is never enough to find the bulk of your confidence. All you will keep finding are debris of this confidence which shattered when it fell. And you hope that it might be light enough to pick up and take back with you.
Sometimes this word can stick with us from childhood and into adulthood and because we have heard it so many times, we eventually begin to believe that it must be true. You must be ugly. Why else would they be calling you ugly all the time? It can’t be because they are not happy with themselves because they are GORGEOUS. It must be you. You must be ugly. And every pretty picture of you is ugly too.
You know I don’t mean that about you.
Those are thoughts that often run through my head about myself, even though people have not called me ugly in years, it has still stuck with me and sometimes I still struggle to over come it. It has stayed with me since I was 8 years old and now at the age of 22 I am still searching for the lost confidence. Perhaps I am just too SENSATIVE.
If you are the kind of person who is comfortable with calling others “ugly”, consider this:
●You do not know what the person you are teasing has gone / is going through in their lives. Many depressed people hide their feelings of insecurity and just laugh it off, but when they get home at the end of the day, the crumble. Every nasty word you said to them runs through their mind, awake and in their dreams – and this may last for years to come.
●Calling someone ugly could very easily take away any kind of beauty they feel inside or out. Because you tease their outside appearance, it begins to rot away at them from the inside which could make them feel ugly from the inside out. This person can actually begin to believe what you say about them and will act accordingly… UGLY… so if you have been calling someone “ugly” and they suddenly begin to turn on you, it really is your fault.
●Calling someone ugly is an ugly thing to do. Do not bring your ugly nature into someone else’s life just to feel good about yourself 🙂
If you are someone who has been called ugly, please consider these tips below:
♥ You are not ugly. Regardless of outside appearance, no one is ugly. GOD Almighty created us beautiful to Him. He (swt) sees the beauty in us even if we cannot see ot in ourselves.
♥ I know it can be difficult, but try not to let it get you down. There are many people who love and support you through the good, bad, ugly and pretty times. Even if you feel you are alone in this, trust me, your Creator is by your side. You are never alone.
♥ Know that someone who has mocked you is very insecure themselves and they are just trying to make themselves feel good. It is more than likely that they themselves feel ugly (perhaps because of the way they have been treating others). They could be having problems that you do not know about and they have decided to take it out in you, perhaps because you are soft hearted and willing to take it.
♥ Remember to treat them with kindness no matter how much they make you cry. Always be the better person as this will make you beautiful no matter how you look on the outside.
♥ If someone has hurt you deeply and continues to bully you and you feel that your confidence has shattered too, I suggest speaking to someone you know you can trust, such as a parent, guardian or teacher. Bullying is a NO NO and you do not have to take they from anyone.
♥ If you are like me, and many years have passed since it happened but you still can’t forget it, take baby steps and know that you can pick up the pieces one by one until you have them all back. It may never be the same again but at least you can come close to it. Try your best to forget about it and show yourself how beautiful you really can be despite what they said about you.
♥Remember that no one is perfect and we all have flaws. Its time to embrace those flaws and allow them to help you instead of hold you back.
♥ You have beauty.
I hope that this little piece of advice helped some of you. If you have any questions you are more than welcome to comment below and if you wish for me to touch on any other topics please let me know 🙂
Now I need to go and ponder on some of my own advice and try not to forget it! I know it is easier said than done, but the key is to try your absolute best and always remember your creator ♥♥♥
Lots of love